Couples Therapy in New York, New Jersey & Connecticut
When the same arguments keep returning, or you feel more distant than you want to be, it can be hard to know how to move forward together. Couples therapy offers a space to slow things down, understand what is happening between you, and begin working toward a more connected relationship.
I provide virtual couples therapy for partners in New York, New Jersey, and Connecticut. My approach is active and collaborative: we’ll look at the patterns you get caught in, what each of you experiences within them, and what might help you respond differently.
When couples seek therapy
You don’t need to be in crisis to reach out. Couples come to therapy for many reasons, including:
Repeated arguments that leave both partners feeling misunderstood
Communication that quickly turns critical, defensive, or shuts down
Emotional distance, loneliness, or a loss of connection
Difficulty rebuilding trust after infidelity or another rupture
Changes in intimacy, parenting, work, or family life
The effects of addiction or recovery on the relationship
Questions about whether to keep working on the relationship
Often, the argument on the surface is connected to something more important: wanting to feel valued, understood, respected, or able to count on one another. Therapy can help you understand those underlying concerns and the cycle that keeps making them difficult to discuss.
How I work with couples
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I view relationship challenges in the context of each partner’s experiences and the relationship they are creating together. We’ll pay attention to what happens between you when a conversation becomes difficult: what each person feels, how each responds, and how those responses affect the other.
Rather than deciding who is right, we’ll work to understand the pattern and identify ways to change it. Depending on your goals, therapy may include slowing down difficult interactions, expressing needs more clearly, rebuilding trust, practicing repair, or finding more constructive ways to navigate conflict.
My work draws on systemic, experiential, and cognitive behavioral family therapy approaches, and is informed by Level 1 training in the Gottman Method. I’ll bring structure and direction when it’s helpful, while keeping our work grounded in your experiences and goals.
Choose the page for your state
The best place to start is the page for the state where you’ll be physically located during therapy. Each page has more information about virtual sessions and couples therapy in that state.
Is couples therapy the right place to start?
Couples therapy is generally a good starting point when both partners are willing to explore what is happening and consider making changes. You don’t have to feel equally hopeful or arrive with the same perspective. You do need some willingness to take part in the work.
If one or both of you are unsure whether to continue the relationship, discernment counseling may be a better first step. It offers a structured way to consider whether to maintain the status quo, move toward separation, or commit to a period of couples therapy.
You don’t need to have everything figured out before getting in touch. A free consultation gives us a chance to briefly discuss what’s happening, answer your questions, and consider whether working together makes sense.